tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6825243.post5486984526592278993..comments2024-01-06T07:53:11.832-08:00Comments on disabled Christianity: My friend MichaelJeff McNairhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10029386598033932429noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6825243.post-87915710833775191352014-11-25T17:54:51.688-08:002014-11-25T17:54:51.688-08:00Jeff,
I am sorry for the passing of your friend M...Jeff, <br />I am sorry for the passing of your friend Michael. Thank you for sharing about your friend and how you guys became close over the years. I really enjoyed the part where you had mentioned that he would always wear a jacket and tie every Sunday to church; I’m sure he was an amazing person and will truly be missed. Sometimes we can take a passing of a friend and turn it into a negative time in our life, but I’m glad you were able to cherish all the memories that you made with Michael and reflect on your friendship. I also really like the part where you mentioned everyone should a friend like Michael, it is really sad to see care-takers or even family members take care of a person with a disability just because they know that at the end of the tunnel they will be getting paid for it. Nobody should think that it’s okay to only be with them because they get a check in return. I have recently reached out to organizations to see what I could possibly do to help a person in need whether it is with a person with a disability or even just a person who needs a friend. <br />5:53pm<br />Taylornoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6825243.post-32920179107300523942014-09-16T17:58:34.694-07:002014-09-16T17:58:34.694-07:00Thanks for sharing Jeff. I think I remember meeti...Thanks for sharing Jeff. I think I remember meeting Michael last month. Joanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13889503692214268758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6825243.post-28540286613425660682014-09-12T23:55:52.438-07:002014-09-12T23:55:52.438-07:00I've been friends with a lot of disabled adult...I've been friends with a lot of disabled adults over the years. One of my BFF's was Rudy. He had a heart attack in 6th grade and didn't get quick CPR. They saved his life at Loma Linda University Children's Hospital but he became severely handicapped and was in a wheelchair for the rest of his life. I learned early on that if I talked to Rudy, adult to adult he would respond to me. Most people didn't talk to Rudy, that talked about him or down to him. Most people just provided him with physical cares and then moved on to the next client. I sang to Rudy (he laughed at my horrible voice), I told him jokes, and talked about my family. I learned he was great at blinking once for yes and twice for no and we could talk for hours about his family. When we met I was 19 and he was 12. I learned he adored jokes that were just a tad naughty!! He would just laugh so hard. Rudy would love it when I whispered in his ear about an employees inappropriate behavior because he knew which employees were bad way before any supervisors did. Rudy was brilliant and no-one knew it. But my greatest gift from Rudy was to learn that even people with no real communication skills have relationship skills and can communicate given extra time or tools. It is up to us to figure out what they need and how they communicate. I loved Rudy with my whole heart and soul. People didn't understand it. But Rudy and I did. I prayed with him. He wanted me to pray that God took him so that he could be with his dad in heaven. Rudy was such a character and I too cried my eyes out when he died. And it sounds like you Jeff had this kind of amazing real relationship with Michael. Karihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00214732894534581596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6825243.post-63813227434932035372014-09-05T06:30:40.260-07:002014-09-05T06:30:40.260-07:00This was absolutely awesome Jeff, thanks for shari...This was absolutely awesome Jeff, thanks for sharing it...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08448211166140744891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6825243.post-14074825980960828182014-09-02T16:42:56.474-07:002014-09-02T16:42:56.474-07:00Jeff a beautiful tribute to a true friend. Thank y...Jeff a beautiful tribute to a true friend. Thank you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11400507564263829230noreply@blogger.com